How can I control my Anger?

My anger is becoming a big problem in my life. I have been hurting other people and myself. Soon i will be alone and with nobody I cant control it I have tried steps and read articles about anger but it is just a matter of time before it all blows up and everything goes down the drain. When I get mad I'am fine at first but then I grow more angrier and i get this weird feeling that comes up and it seems like it takes over my mind i get very light headed and then not even i can believe the hurtful things that come out of my mouth horrible nasty things sometimes i will add dramatic effects i guess or some might call them violent effects by slamming things down maybe breaking something. I don't ever hit my girlfriend or break any of her stuff but i do break my stuff and it scares her the thing is i still know not to ever strike a women ever no matter the situation but still i get scared too after wards ever since a kid my own father was afraid of my temper and what i did with it maybe because it is just like his my aunts everybody my dad my girlfriend even people who i have gotten in to fights with have said i get this look in my eyes the look of the devil and pure evil im always have been hurt by this i never thought that was cool or anything but i agree because that is what it feels like and when im done and i get calmed down i feel hurt and everybody is crying or scared and im saying im sorry it goes away just like that like somebody has just hit the stop on i feel everything just exit my body it is so weird and most of the stuff i don't remember saying the next day it is like a complete blur i only remember bits and pieces somebody please tell me im not the only one and please somebody help because people are starting to thing i'am really crazy when i say it kind of fells like im possessed